Romantic Gay Weddings

Who should pay for a lesbian wedding?

I assumed since I did the asking and since my little Aussie sweetheart agreed to move to New York to be with me, that I would pay for everything. But, I just called my mother to tell her the date was set and she told me that she and my father would like to pay for the whole thing. I don't know how I feel about this since she paid for my first wedding to my husband who I am still married to.

Is there some sort of lesbian etiquette that I don't know about?

Public Comments

1. well who wears the pants in the relationship?

2. awesome...

3. wait..you're still married to your husband? but you're marrying a girl now? how does that work...?

4. i wish i had your parents...

5. Both of you!

6. let her daddy do it.

7. I think the bigamy issues outweight the who should pay issues.

8. 50-50 surely

9. You should do whatever you are comfortable with. If you are uncomfortable having your parents pay then you can offer to pay for everything, or you can split the cost... whatever makes you most comfortable. I don't think there is a "lesbian etiquette."

10. clearly the one who is dominant pays or we could call in ellen

11. I don't know about the lesbian spin....

But I think that the first wedding is paid for by the brides family...

All subsequent weddings are paid for by the newlyweds themselves.

:)

12. If you have a decent divorce lawyer, you can get your husband to pay for it.

13. O don't know about lesbian ettiquette but it sounds like your parents just want to show how much they accept both your change in lifestyle and choice of partner.

Personally I would prefer to pay for it myself but I would probably let them pay for a specific thing - the reception, dress, photographer, whatever was suitable - just to acknowledge their offer and not cause offence.

All the best for the nuptials!

14. I don't know if there is a specific answer to this question. I think you should sit down with your fiance and talk it over. See how she feels or what her parents are saying about the whole thing. See as how your parents offered they are being very generous and don't mind at all. Ask Aussie if her parents have said anything about paying for it and if they have then you might be able to work out something either letting them pay for the whole thing or letting both of your parents split the cost?

A friend of mine got married to his boyfriend last year and their parents split the cost.. it worked out great and was a lovely ceremony (my daughter was the flower girl!!)

Congratulations on your engagement - I wish you both a wonderful life together!! <3

15. Why don't you split the cost 1/2 and 1/2?

16. I solved the problem! I entered the both of you into the today show wedding contest. I know for sure you will win. It should be a beautiful wedding.

17. Since YOU asked YOU pay! if mommy and daddy want to help that is fine .Remember your the woman here (or would that be man, I'M SO CONFUSED!!!!) you must pay.

18. I have an idea!! Let your Yahoo contacts share the cost. How's that? We can all fork over 10 bucks or so, and give you two girls a beautiful wedding!

19. Wow you must have great and understanding parents!! I would surely let them pay for it if they are willing to. That was you can save your money for a bigger house unless you plan to have the 3 of you share a room. Don't forget that your bride-to-be has 5 darling kiddos herself that need her so they will need to live with your guys too. And then there are her animals....wow this is going to be expensive. I hope you're saving your pennies!!!

Anyways...graciously accept your parents gratitude.

20. I think the answer here is obvious - let all parties split the bill. You've got your parents, your new bride's family, and you and your husband who have already had one wedding paid for by family (meaning its your turn to help pay this time!). So when you figure out the cost, split the bill 3 ways.

Does the current husband get to go on this honeymoon as well, or does he have to stay home and work and wait for the stories when you get back?

And to Vanessa - How does this work? Awesome, that's how it works :)

21. ~~Don't be SILLY... JILI will be paying for everything!~~ You're Welcome!~~

22. I don't know if I could accept my parents paying for a second
wedding . Somehow , I feel like it's my responsibility , and my fault
for making a wrong choice on the first one .

23. As long as Charli is paying for the divorce.

24. LMAO! Oh you are on a roll today! How funny and interesting at the same time!
There is a book on lesbian etiquette, its at Barnes and Noble in the Lifestyle section!

25. Well traditionally the parents of the "bride." But I hate traditions!!!! So screw that :) That's awesome how supportive your parents are being. Let them pay for some, but if you don't want them to pay for it all, then don't be afraid to chip in. And your SOON-TO-BE-WIFEY :) can also chip in if she'd like. Do whatever you'd like.

And CONGRATS :)

26. I need to tell your sweet parents they raised a monster.

27. I'm going to assume that you are in the process of divorcing your current husband.

I don't think it's appropriate for parents to pay for their children's second wedding.

I would keep it simple to keep the cost down and pay for it myself.


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28. The one who is more butch.

29. One of the best things about being lesbian/gay is that you do not need to follow society's rules about anything. Do whatever works for you as a couple.

30. RIGHT HERE RIGHT HERE!!!
http://www.enotalone.com/article/4760.html
how about if i bring some matching Her and Her flannel shirts as a wedding gift?

31. That's so sweet.
I know who to call when I am marrying my 20th babby daddy - Ellie's parents!
I think actually she should pay because you gave her a pen - it's only fair.
Do you have my bridesmaid dress ready yet?

32. I believe it's usually the father of the br...err bull dyke.

33. I think you should split it. No insult intended but I hear that Lesbians like to hit the split

Well my work here is done. I hope I have helped you with your survey, little lady. Good bye and good luck. I am off to find other Yapoo citizens to help in the true spirit of the Yapoo Community Guidelines.

34. Man, you are one messed-up lezbo, baby...

35. Heck, they want to pay let them pay.

I haven't any money, so let them pay.